Happiness is something that most people strive for. However, if you ask different people, everyone will define happiness in their own way. Some people will talk about what they are missing, some will talk about socially acceptable and “right” things, some will respond that it’s family, children, and so on.
So, what is Happiness?
Many scientists and philosophers have studied this issue. I will not cite their conclusions in this article. I rely on my own experience and on my research conducted with hundreds of people.
Remember, I encourage you to doubt everything, including my words. Your own research and personal experience are important. If you practice, you’ll understand why I say that.
I have noticed that there is a particular state that is different from love and various emotional states such as joy, euphoria, delight and contentment. This state can be experienced even when dealing with “negative” emotions. It is difficult to notice it, but it seems to be always present. It used to show up at certain moments, but it didn’t last. Since I began to consciously use my attention, this state has become permanent. I became curious and began to study this state in my clients who came to my classes from all over the world.
Regardless of gender, age, or nationality, these people began to notice the same things I did. I excluded the possibility that it was prompted by me because I didn’t describe the state, nor did I name it. I have a rule – live the experience first, then talk about it. But through communication and observing what happens to people during and after training, it became obvious. I began to explore how different exercises affect the ability to feel this state. This state emerged more frequently in exercises where attention was more involved, especially in deep observation, rather than in simple exercises. So I made the exercises more challenging and continued to observe. With each new challenge, more and more people began to feel this unusual, but as if familiar, state more quickly.
In addition to practical research, I communicated with representatives of various fields, from religious to esoteric. They often spoke about things like mindfulness and enlightenment in complex language, but did not give clear instructions on how to achieve it. Nevertheless, I have seen people achieve these states without practicing prayers or rituals, but simply by doing complex mental training based on the use of attention.
So I decided to make my training more difficult. After that, more than 80% of participants started to discover what they were looking for. Most people are looking for happiness, they have a feeling that there is something missing in their life, no matter how much money they have, how good their health is, how much power they have, or where they live.
After focusing on my research every day for the past six years, I can tell you what Happiness is.
Happiness is a state when you just “feel good.” It’s when you feel freedom within yourself, as if you are at home, and it does not depend on anyone or anything. This state does not depend on external factors.
Happiness is such a subtle feeling of silence, peace, freedom, which every person always has, but you need to start feeling it. It’s not easy to do, it’s like feeling the smells on the exhale. We got so used to them that we stopped noticing them. The same goes for the feeling of happiness.
And if happiness is my personal state, which depends on me only, then I can’t share it. Other people can only experience their own happiness, their own state of “good”. And if no external factor can affect my state, then I cannot affect the happiness of other people. Thus, it is impossible to share happiness. Those who try to do this lose their state and begin to suffer. All you have to do with happiness is just experience it.
What should you do to start feeling happy?
When a person begins to actively use their attention, they begin to experience a state of happiness. Does this mean that every time you use your attention, you will feel good? Yes, it’s that simple.
It sounds simple. But in order to use attention effectively, you need to do it regularly: constantly monitor where your attention is directed, and don’t let it go away automatically. To do this, you need to develop the “attention muscles”. You can come up with exercises and do them by yourself or use ready-made techniques. When you train this skill, just use your attention in everyday life, and additional training will become unnecessary.
Happiness is the opposite of suffering. I’m talking about mental suffering from stress, fears, grudges, addictions, and so on. Why is this happening? Because when our life is driven by such thoughts and the Person suffers, we don’t use our attention, our attention is automatically engaged in those thoughts.
In order to stop suffering, and therefore become a happy Person, it is necessary to develop your attention and use it. For more information about what attention is, read the article about attention or check out the app.
I invite you to explore this phenomenon of Happiness on your own and come to your own conclusions based on your experience.